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Peer pressure does control you.I’m going to talk about one’s maturity level. Maturity can lead to peer pressure. Maturity means carefully considering what we think about. I agree that immaturity leads to peer pressure because of a few reasons. Peer pressure comes down to immaturity. Teens hate being told they are immature but the fact of the matter is singling people out for bring different. Especially if that different does not mean you are dangerous, or weird, or undeserving of respect. Unfortunately, because all teens are struggling with identity issues any difference that stands out is usually shunned, there is no good reason why this happens and there is really no good way to stop it from happening. Education about differences, what makes people different, and how these differences really affect how a person behaves is a good start but it won’t fix the root of the problem which is a basic and instinctive fear of things that seem radically different from the norm. There is no excuse for this. The best thing to do is ignore harmless differences whenever possible. There is nothing wrong with being “an original”. But if you purposely make yourself stand out from the crowd by dressing or acting a certain way it is naïve to think nobody will notice. Be prepared for the ignorance of others and be comfortable enough with who you are to t care what they may say. Different or not you deserve respect, you deserve to be treated with dignity and you deserve to be happy. If being different makes you happy – more power to you! If you give into pressure from time to time it means you are human. Even adults have been known to fall victim to the force of peer pressure. It is the type of peer pressure you succumb to, not the fact that you give in that matters. If you repeatedly find yourself doing things because of peer pressure that you later regret, if you are harming yourself or others, or if you feel bad about yourself for giving in, you should talk to somebody. Otherwise, know that even the strongest willed person can give in to peer pressure. The need to feel accepted is strong during the teen years. Self identity is not yet formed, it is just starting to be discovered, and this can lead to a steady state of uncertainty. Teens want to belong and it is hard to belong if you are always going against the grain. This is why teens are more likely than other groups to succumb to group pressures of conformity. Most often this pressure is not very harmful; teens in the same group will dress the same, talk the same, be interested in the same activities, listen to the same music, and spend time with the same people. But in extreme cases the need to be accepted can lead people to do things that they would not normally do on their own. If a group norm includes drug use and a teen that is not accepted by other groups is accepted in the drug using group they may feel a great deal of pressure to start using themselves. Why? Because the teen who has felt marginalized by other groups has finally found a place where he/she is accepted and they do not want to lose the sense of security that acceptance in a group entails. Friends are a big part of the emerging self identity and the thought of losing them during the early stages of identity development is very hard to face. The irony is that peer pressure to do drugs, or drink alcohol or have sex are often more perception than reality. Teens who fall into groups that engage in these behaviors often feel pressured to conform when the group itself is not really exerting any such pressure. The teens need to fit in causes the pressure, not the actions of the peer group. As one recovering teen drug addict once said, "I never cared if my friends got high or not. If they stayed straight it just left more for me!" The idea that a group with anti-social norms leads good kids astray may not be entirely true; the individuals’ insecurities may be the real culprit. Peer pressure is much more likely to lead a teen to walk, talk and act a certain way than it is to lead them to do bad, harmful or self destructive things. Other than that, teenagers are easily influenced by accepted trends that their peers choose to follow. They don’t have their opinion on certain things. That is why we, teenagers, are easily influenced by accepted trends, especially when we are still young and learning. It is also because young teenagers are weak and easily influenced as long as people say something that is wrong or right. Only a handful of teens have their own perception on things. This shows the maturity of one’s level and the mentality of teen. The more experience a teen have, the higher the maturity level they have. Some teenagers have a higher maturity level compared to some other adults. Again this shows the mentality of one’s age no matter how old the person is. These accepted trends might not be what they like. They might not feel comfortable with it. But because of other people’s liking and trends, they become our own identity. We do not have enough maturity to think for ourselves that we have to have our own perception on things, especially in life. We tend to follow peers subconsciously to go with the flow. Again, this shows that we don’t have high level of maturity. This can also be seen during election. We can only vote when we’re 21. It is because we are still not mature enough to think for the country’s future. We have to vote for the right prime minister to lead our country. The wrong vote will cause havoc and catastrophic to our country and lead our country into turmoil. |
